We were 28 years old when we got married. I know that we are not getting younger so we waste no time. We then decide to have a baby. Getting pregnant was never easy, it took us two years for me to conceive and yes we went to see a number of physicians; gynecologists, and a fertility doctor. We went through several lab checks to make sure that we are healthy and capable of bearing a child. My husband is no doubt capable as he has a child to a different woman when he was younger. That, was before we got married. But still I have to get him checked. Our lab results were good. All the doctors have the same findings. They said that there is no reason for us not to have a child as we are both healthy. However they educated us more about fertility.
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What your child will be tomorrow depends on how he is nurtured and cherished today. The quality of his training and the pattern of values inculcated in him will reveal the kind of person he will be.
Will he be a cheerful and pleasant person? Will he be an asset or a liability in society? These are significant questions parents should consider in the training and development of their children.
I have heard some parents say: “Never mind he is still a child”. When some responsible adults meaningfully urge that a child be reprimanded for some mischief, the child’s doting mother would beg: “Be patient with him. He is still a baby”.
This is more often than not tragic because the child is growing without the parents realizing that he is developing into manhood. And because he has been treated like a child all along, even in his maturing years, he behaves like a child. This is one reason we have a lot of childish people around us.
Preparing the child for school is one of the important matters parents should be carefully aware of, for it is in school where most of his waking hours will be spent. They should never consider burdensome the time that they need to spend with the child to teach him values that will help him develop love, patience and obedience. Their home training should teach lessons that will inspire cheerful disposition and encourage resourcefulness and independence. These positive values are the most important wealth parents can bequeath to their children.
There are some parents who leave the home training of their child to the so-called tutor. They have no time for the child, and if they have, the moments that they spend with him usually and in trouble – the mother scolding and berating the child for being very slow in learning and the child feeling guilty and losing confidence in himself.
Parents should direct their child training efforts to the development of self-respect in the child, particularly in his early childhood. How the child feels about himself influences not only his choice but also his decisions. How he will grope in or cope with the world around him will be reflected in his concept of himself. The standard and ideals that parents awaken in their children by way of their example determine, to a large extent, not only their future lifestyle but also how they will face the challenges that come their way.
As parents, we should take stock of our ways of dealing with our growing children. We should reexamine the direction to which we are leading them. What kind of future are we preparing them for? What preparation are we giving them for their future?
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Here are Ten great ways to say “I Love You.”
- Apply the three C’s. Seize every opportunity to compliment, commend, and congratulate your partner. Apply to your marriage the advice of St. Paul: “Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – anything is excellent or praise worthy – think about such things” (Philippians 4:8). Think about your partner’s personality and actions. Identify those things that are “excellent or praise-worthy” and compliment your spouse for them. Lavish him with praise. Heap words of appreciation upon her. Never forget, a sincere compliment i a tremedious gift.
- Turn off the TV. Most couples are extremely busy. Both usually work outside the home and must juggle othe demands for their time, such as parenting, household management, and community organizations. This means they have very little discretionary time to spend together. Thus many couples use television as a time to relax. However, the TV can arrest a relationship.
- Have a fair division of labor. With more and more couples working outside the home it’s only fair and right that household responsibilities be shared equally. Resentment builds quickly when one partner feels the burden of doing most of the home management. Make sure there is a fair division of labor in your home.
- Show patience. The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not smashing it open,” wrote author Arnold Glasgow. You may not always understand your partner’s actions, nor can you always appreciate a partner’s attitude. During those times, extend the courtesy of patience. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt. No matter how close you may be to your partner, it isn’t always possible to be fully aware of the struggles with which he or she is wrestling. Remember that the Bible instructs us to a duty of sympathetic love and unselfish living.
- Be a genie-grant your partner three wishes. Most people are more comfortable giving rather than receiving. They find it hard to ask for special favors. An effective way to cut through that obstacle is to a genie-grant your partner his or her wishes.
- Think before you speak. “Raised voices lower esteem. Hot tempers cool friendship. Loose tongues stretch truth. Swelled heads shrink influence. Sharps words dull respect,”writes William Arthur Ward. Behind his observation is the reality that words are weapons. They can inspire or injure, hurt or heal. Do your best to spend your words as wisely as you spend your money. While it’s right to let your partner know how you feel, choose the words carefully. Think before you speak.
- Routinely send love signals. Small gesture often convey large meaning. Express your love through small acts of kindness, tenderness and gentleness.
- Lighten and brighten life with laughter. Laughter add richness, texture, and color to otherwise ordinary days. It is a gift, a choice, a discipline, and an art.
- Listen with your heart. When your partner is upset, allow free expression of feelings. Don’t refute his logic. Don’t explain how unreasonable she is. Don’t pick away at details. Just listen. The only appropriate comments are those that seek clarification and understanding. Later, when there has been time to process the information and when feelings are cooled, there will be a better time to respond. As a perceptive listener you show great respect by allowing your partner to share thoughts and feelings.
- Be generous with forgiveness. Forgiveness allows that process to begin. “Forgiveness involves letting go of anger, restoring respect, and offering acceptance.” If you can find a way to offer the gift of forgiveness, you will have discovered one of the strongest circuit breakers of all, one that allows you to put down the burden you’re carrying. With you hands and heart free, you and your partner can begin building a new, more fulfilling relationship.
A perfect wedding is perhaps every woman’s dream. But preparing for a perfect wedding is not an easy thing. Preparation may mean pressure to every woman. There are a lot of things to take into consideration to make the moment beautiful and perfect. That is why it is important that wedding articles should be read by those who are planning to settle down for good. For some, to have a perfect wedding they have to see experts or contact wedding planners. Others do research over the internet and magazines. Under proper guidance and with the help of wedding articles, couples would be able to get practical and unique ideas on how to make the most special day of their lives unforgettable and memorable.
Cooking is a branch of education which has the most direct influence upon human life. Young women think that it is menial to cook and do other kinds of housework. For this reason, many girl who marry and have the care of families have little idea of the duties devolving upon a wife and mother.
Teach your children on how to cook. In giving your children in physiology, and teaching them how to cook with simplicity and yet with skill, you are laying the foundation for the most useful branches of education.
Mother should take their daughters into the kitchen with them when very young, and teach them the art of cooking. She should instruct them patiently, lovingly, and make the work as agreeable as she can by her cheerful countenance and encouraging words of approval.
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The importance of the mother’s role should be recognized. One of those roles is as gatekeeper for food purchases and food-related activities.
Here are some tips that may help:
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Establish rules and guidelines for shopping. Children need to know ahead of time what is expected of them. Let them know what you consider acceptable behavior while shopping.
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Shop from a list. Shopping from a list makes it easier to say no to spur-of-the-moment requests. Prepare the list ahead of time by taking an invetory of the food you have on hand and by anticipating the items you will need for the next meals.
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Involve the children in planning the meals. This will help teach them about good food choices.
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Do not shop when you or the children are hungry. You are much more likely to buy items you don’t really want or need if you are hungry, and to purchase more costly, quick, convenience items.
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Do not reward or punish behavior with food. Using food as a reward or punishment can teach children to depend on food later in life when they need emotional support.
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Be consistent. If the response to a child’s behavior is different every time, the child will not know what to expect. Be consistent in your responses to the behavior
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Make mealtime a happy time. In today’s world, families are often so busy they don’t have time to talk to each other.Don’t let the busyness of life steal the opportunity to make mealtime a special time. Regaularly set aside certain meals that are your family’s special time to be together.
Parents must learn the lesson of implicit obedience to God’s voice, which speaks to them out of His Word. As they learn this lesson, they can teach their children respect and obedience in word and action. This is the work that should be carried on in home. Those who do it will reach upward themselves, realizing that they must elevate their children.
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The first child especially should be trained with great care, for he will educate the rest. Children grow according to the influence of those who surround them. If they are handled by those who are noisy and boisterous, they become noisy and almost unbearable. The gradual development of the plant from the seed is an object lesson in child training.
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Parents are under obligation to feed and clothe and educate their children. Children are under obligation to serve their parents with cheerful, earnest fidelity. When children cease to feel their obligation to share the toil and burden with their parents, then how would it suit them to have their parents cease to feel their obligation to provide for them? In ceasing to do the duties that devolve upon them to be useful to their parents, to toil, children miss their opportunity of obtaining a most valuable education that will fit them for future usefulness.
Parents are not to be slaves to their children, doing all the sacrificing, while the children are permitted to grow up careless and unconcerned, letting all the burdens rest upon their parents.
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Well may the mother inquire, as she looks upon the children given to her care. What is the great aim and object of their education? Is it to fit them for life and its duties, to qualify them to take an honorable position in the world, to do good, to benefit their fellow-beings, to gain eventually the reward of the righteous? If so, then the first lesson to be taught them is self-control. No undisciplined, headstrong person can hope for success in this world or reward in the next.
The little one’s before they are a year old, hear and understand what is spoken in reference to themselves, and know to what extent they are to be indulged. Mothers, you should train your children to yield to your wishes. This point must be gained if you would hold control over your children, and preserve your dignity as a mother. Your children quickly learn just what you expect of them. They know when their will conquers yours, and will make the most of their victory. It is cruelty to allow wrong habits to be developed, to give the laws into the hands of the child and let him rule.
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The child’s first teacher is the mother. During the period of greatest susceptibility and most rapid development his education is to a great degree in her hands. To her first is given opportunity to mold the character for good or for evil. She should understand the value of her opportunity and, above every other teacher, should be qualified to use it to the best account. Yet there is no other to whose training so little thought is given. The one whose influence in education is most potent and far-reaching is the one for whose assistance there is the least systematic effort. Upon fathers as well as mothers rests a responsibility for the child’s earlier and later training. For both parents the demand for careful and thorough preparation is urgent. Before taking upon themselves the possibilities of fatherhood and motherhood, men and women should become acquainted with the laws of physical development – with physiology and hygiene, with the bearing of prenatal influences, with the laws of heredity, sanitation, dress, exercise, and the treatment of disease. They should also understand the laws of mental development and moral training.
At times the heart may be ready to faint; but a living sense of the dangers threatening the present and future happiness of their love ones should lead Christian parents to seek more earnestly for help from the source of strength and wisdom. It should make them circumspect, decided, and calm yet firm, while they watch these children, as they that must give account.
When I was young my mother always teaches us to be responsible in every thing we do. We are the ones responsible of our selves, especially in making decision in life. She always reminds us to have the good hygiene, and take care of our dignity. In choosing partner we have been warned to check the background or the hereditary history of the family. We have to choose wisely because our future will be base in our decision. She teaches us most especially the good moral exercise and mental development.
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