Category Archives: Parenting

1st Step Against Alcoholism

Alcoholism is one serious addiction that is crippling our society and has broken a lot of homes (family). My uncle was an alcoholic. At the start he said he was just an occasional drinker until his so called occasional drinking turned out to be a daily drinking.

His addiction was mild at first because he still recognizes and respects his family member even when he’s drunk. However overtime it turned worst because every time he’s drunk he already hit his wife and kids and basically does not know what he is doing when in the influence of alcohol. Well, he always felt sorry when he gets sober.

One night he was drunk and has hit his son. In the morning his son told him that he almost forgot that he is his father and if only aunt (his mom) was not there he could have fight back or killed him.

Alcohol Detox Treatment Program

Uncle realized that his addiction to alcohol is leading them to a shattered family so he decided that he would go for alcohol detox treatment which had been offered to him by his family member for a long time. Uncle was aware of the process and of the emotions and other feelings that he would go through when getting to this process that is why he did not took the offer before.

It’s a good thing that he volunteered to go through it. At least we now know that his heart is on it. Meaning he is now prepared for it. He decided that he would go to a rehabilitation center while going through this process because when in the center, he knows that there’s no way for them to look for alcohol as oppose to home treatment where he can easily go out and run to the store for alcoholic beverages when tempted. He knew that this is not a complete treatment rather the first step to get rid of his addiction.

Breastfeed

The birth of a baby has to be one of the greatest miracles of life. On average, about four babies enter our world every second. During that same second approximately two people die, so that the world population is increasing at the rate of about per second. It is a statistics that I have a hard time with, because I know how much pain and sadness there is in our sin-sick world. My prayer is Lord; take care of all those precious lives. A human life is a unit with the greatest known value.

As each healthy baby comes into the world kicking and screaming, it is generally hungry and is ready to eat. When mother cradles baby in her arms, the food is right there at the infant’s mouth, and baby is programmed to root around and latch on and start sucking, drinking, in that life-giving milk – another profound miracle story of production. When you study the system from a designer’s perspective, it looks “very good.”

breastfeed

So what is a mother’s milk? It is good nutrition for the newborn? Does it meet specifications for growth and development? Much research done during the past two decades clearly shows that it is the perfect baby food. It appears to be designed by a loving Creator who knows what He is doing. Consider these observations.

For the first few days mother’s milk (called colostrum) is rich in proteins and low in sugar and fats. A perfect nutritional blend, it boosts the baby’s immune system and kick – starts the function of the infant’s fairly inactive and inexperienced digestive tract. For the next few days the milk changes to sweet watery liquid called transitional milk. The baby gets fully hydrated, and the sweetness appeal to the baby’s awakening senses. Roughly two weeks into life, mother’s milk composition shifts again to the so-called mature milk with watery foremilk and thicker, creamier hind milk. The fat and sugar content continue to rise, and the immunoglobulin levels fall. After about six months babies begin supplementing their diets with a little solid food as they continue their growth and development.

Education for Learning Disabilities

It took us two years to accept the fact that our first born have learning disabilities. My husband; a Bachelor of Science in Psychology graduate already noticed the tale signs of our son’s learning disabilities when our son was two years old since our son does not have most of the capabilities of kids of his age. Even now that he is four years old he still does not converse or communicates. He is not mute since he can speak. He knows colors, shapes, numbers, and letters of the alphabets. He could say mom or dad but he could not even call us mom or dad, he also knows his sister’s name but he does not call her by her name.

So when he was three we decided to bring him to a specialist and we learned about the problem. My husband was right; our son has autism. He is functional as the specialist calls it but he’s got language base differences. We thought we end the denial stage and decided to look check for schools for learning disabilities that could help our son because we desire to get him to join the mainstream in few years.

It is truly difficult to find a school that has perfect program or training that could assist a person with learning disabilities’ development. My husband being a psychology graduate checks every school’s programs and evaluates if he thinks the program could best help our son. He said he beyond doubt admires the systemic orton gillingham method he wished our son grows fast and time would fly real quick so that we could get our son to enroll. Unfortunately at this time the orton gillingham training is still not applicable for his age. We truly are looking forward to get our son such kind of education.

Meanwhile, we have checked about twenty schools and we are able to pick only three schools which we think could somehow bring out the best for our little one.

Shadow of your Abilities

Life of the students faces a series of problems as they go through with their studies. One that tops most is their grades.

Nowadays, that school grades become the major anxiety among students and too much concern of it, ignite fierce competition. Most of the so-called brilliant students are caught up on a competitive maze that emphasized grades and class rank rather than learning. As a result, students learn early in school to ask what is going to be on the test and study only that material. Thus, fierce competition for academic accolades becomes futile.

Education, in its truest sense, is more than racking up points on tests. It is developing the skill of taking raw information and drawing sound, practical conclusion from it. So how can you achieve good grades that will truly reflect your abilities?

One thing is to take responsibility in your studies. Do not tend to blame your poor performances on sources beyond your control like unfair test questions, prejudiced instructor, bad luck or the weather. Actually, there is no such thing like these, instead, laziness often be the real reason for low grades. Good student, however, take responsibility for their learning, their secrets? It’s start from personal motivation. This keeps them moving. They put themselves on a reachable schedules and systematic organization of study routine. How hard they are willing to study and apply themselves in school.

You attitude and environment also counts in obtaining good grades. Concentrate and avoid distractions. To do this effectively, institute a get-tough policy with yourself. You can start doing this by clicking off or setting aside your Television remote control and other things that would divert your focus. A quite place also benefits you to have a peaceful study. If possible, use a desk with plenty of space on which to spread out your work. Keep supplies such as pencils and paper handy so you won’t to get up constantly. Make sure too, that you have an adequate, glare-free lighting. Good lighting reduces study fatigue and protects your eyes as well. A cool room provides a more invigorating study environment than a warm room does.

But how about if there will be an examination next week? Do not panic. First try to discern from your teacher’s comments what kind of test it will be, such as an essay test or multiple choices. Also, listen to the clues as to what will appear in the test. Lastly, review your notes and try to get a good night sleep.

If you think you’ve already done these and still you flunk on the exam, do not be disappointed. The humiliation of failing a test may well worst if it spurs you on to learn from your mistakes and improve. Remember that your grades are not the final judgment on your worth as a person. Nevertheless, take advantage of the time you are in school and learn as much as you can. Usually, that effort will be reflected in grades that will make you feel happy and contented.

Trust and Be Happy

Many are asking: “will there be an end to violence, famine, hunger and war? Where is the nuclear arm race heading for? What about the Middle East crisis? Are these portents of the nearing end of the world? What does the future hold for us?” These are entreating questions searching for the answer to our apprehension of the present and horrifying fear of the future. Everyone is desperately longing and searching for peace and happiness.

Despite the gloomy picture of what is ahead of us, it is God’s wish and plan that we live happy and peaceful lives every day in 2013.

However, that depends on the quality of our trust Him. This is why He tells us through the wise man, King Solomon: “Trust in the Lord and you will be happy.”

Think of it. Really, in a great sense, our peace and happiness is a reflection of our trust in God. The greater our trust in Him, the more He is able to fulfill His wish and plan for us.

Trust is generated by knowledge and understanding. To be able to really trust God, therefore, is to know Him closely. Through a daily study of God’s word, and constant communication with Him in prayer and meditation, we can experience a meaningful fellowship with Him, for He will unfold His will and plan not only for us, but for our world which He had created.

When we know and understand who God really is, we will no longer be more concerned with what will happen to us and to our world than what our relationship with Him is. For it is not significant that we know what this world has in store for us than that we trust God as the one in control of our lives and the world we live in.

Darkest Side of Dating

Dating

Dating? It’s what everybody likes. Specially, during the blooming stage of adolescence. They are always looking to that event and eager to experience what it looks like to be-flowers, a lovely dinner and a good night kiss. Though dating is not only for girlfriend and boyfriends but let us substantiate its effects and ourselves this time to two person of opposite sex spending a lot of time often unsupervised.

Dating per se is not bad. As a matter of fact, when carried out intelligently and cautiously, dating is a legitimate way for two people to get to know each other. And yet, it can be enjoyable. But this means that you date?

There are a lot of reasons why people go out for dating. Commonly, it is because of peer pressures and individual’s desire for warmth and affection. A young lady may force to go out with a young boy because her friends are doing it often, and naturally she doesn’t want to become weird or different with others. Or perhaps a girl whose parents are too busy for material things may look for someone to love and appreciate her. Thus, dating now becomes an exit of those people who are inferior and insecure. But could parents tolerate this reason?

Research showed that unguided teenage dating contributes to country’s rate of unwanted pregnancy and sex before marriage. As a result, it culminates too many youth’s torn emotions, heartbreaks, and miserable life and doomed relationships. Worst, teenage dating becomes responsible for many youthful suicides. Why is this so? Simply because while youth is growing up, his personality is in the state of flux. A process of discovering who he is, what he likes and what he want to do with his life. At this stage, teenagers are just beginning learn how to control their sexual relationship.

But in spite of these bad effects, you can have measures to get rid from temptations.  You can make yet strong decisions guided by older ones. So if your parents disapprove of your dating, do not rebel. Parents often see danger to which you are blind. To prepare yourself, increase the type of association you engaged in. Mingle with the old and young, single and married and this will give you a realistic view of relationship between opposite sex and marriage perhaps. This people will help you in selecting your good mate in the future. Most importantly, do not influence yourself about dating by the attitude and trends of others. Do not go out to date unless you are mature enough and ready to get a relationship.

Just Can’t Get Enough

Transformers

While checking each picture folder I ran across these photos taken last February and looking at these brings smile to my face. These pictures were taken at SM particularly in the North Wing. We used to get Zach to play in play houses like this. We tried not to get closer to the playhouse this time for we know what’s going to happen if he gets to notice the playhouse.

Zach had been to this playhouse just once and that first time was like two months prior to this day. Little did we know our little Zach’s memory worked like a tracker, oh boy he knew the way to the playhouse. He was restless and so we gave-in, just so timely since I need to breastfeed my then five month old daughter.

Zach enjoys himself so much in the playhouse but we can’t understand why he hated that Dora the explorer stuff toy so much. Every time he climbed to the upper deck and see Dora, he picks Dora up and threw the poor cartoon character to the ground.

Fire Fighter Zach

Later on he saw some kid trying on those little costumes so he also grabbed his dad so he can try to fit the fire fighter uniform. Look my there’s my brave little fire fighter.  Then he drives the truck fast as if racing with his dad. But know what the kicker was? It was when it’s time to go. Three hour play seems not enough for our little boy but it was almost 9PM and the play house is about to close. Zach was crying so hard not wanting to go. He was confused though whether to go back in or follow us since we show him that we are leaving. He walked ten steps going our direction then stopped and looked back to the playground. He just stood still and was crying his heart out. His dad ran to him and hugged him tight saying stop crying Zach we’ll get back her some other day promise, but that’s enough for today. Zach just embraced and subbed at his dad’s shoulder as he carried him in his arms. Zach understood his dad and after 10 min he just fell asleep.

Ukulele for Our Kids

It’s a good thing that administrators and teachers in the school where my nephews and niece comes are banking on developing the children’s talent. They are teaching their students to play musical instruments. Two of my nephews are required to obtain a ukulele. When my husband came home last September for our daughter’s 1st birthday, mom asked him to buy two ukuleles for these boys I suggested three so our little Zach may also have one but asked to buy the cheapest for Zach since he’ll just make it as his toys.

Next week my husband will be coming home and he said he’ll be looking for ukuleles but asked me what kind of ukuleles we want him to buy. I began searching online and show him this ukulele from Luna Guitars and gave him the link as well. He said the guitars he saw on the website are of very good quality. They have one of those kinds of ukuleles when they were kids and it remained good until they finish college. That ukulele they owned only got smashed when their first nephew Sean was a toddler. Oh you know what toddlers do.

Kaloy Hears

My husband has told me of a story pertaining Kaloy and Alex our schoolmates back in high school. O high school was sure our crazy years and I know you have the same opinion to that as you had been there too, right?

O well, we have this schoolmate back then who was hard of hearing. We are not sure if it was in-born or if it was acquired during childhood. My husband suspects that it could have been acquired when he was young. Probably from holding breathe for so long under water when they go fishing.

At school Kaloy was being bullied and mocked by his peers because of his circumstance. They make fun of him behind his back and Kaloy was very patient with them, holding on his temper and just turned his back each time he could not hold his tears.

The Diamond Hearing Aid

His parents knew his needs so they brought him to an ear specialist and they were told that a hearing aid would be a great help for their son. Hearing aid prices were a little high back then so Kaloy’s parents saved for his hearing aid.

The day Kaloy received his hearing aid, he was very happy he told almost everybody how he feels about hearing properly, his smiles at every one he meet ear to ear.  Kaloy’s hearing aid was so sensitive that Kaloy’s hearing was perfect.  That day Alex the bully was not there, he was home and arrived back to school the next day.

Few hours after Alex’s arrival, Alex and some of the guys were hanging around the dormitory porch. Kaloy passed by heads down, Alex started mocking Kaloy at his back thinking that Kaloy has not heard every stupid thing he was saying. In a bit louder voice he called Kaloy a “freaking deaf.” Slowly Kaloy turned his back and walked calmly toward mocking Alex, then came three or four fast and strong blows at Alex’s face and head. Alex fell to the ground helpless.  In a loud voice Kaloy said “my hearing is better than yours.”

Alex learned his lesson and from that day he never bullied Kaloy or anybody anymore. Lesson learned.

We do not know where Kaloy is nowadays but we tip our hats for what he did to that bully.

“Cubi – Cubi Beach” during Dad’s Birthday

Papa’s birthday has passed and I would say we had a wonderful time that day. There was this do or not plans a day before his birthday but none of them came thru. Mom just thought of cooking some foods and we will just eat as a family and thank God for another year of goodness, health, well-being, successes, protection, and all the blessings the Almighty gave to Dad.

So that was just about it, that was the plan not until Dad decided that we go to beach in the 11th hour. Well, that’s typically just my dad. So off I started dialing my kens’ numbers early morning informing them about what dad wants. The good thing was everybody seems have nothing much important to do that day and so we gathered easily.

We quickly bought what we need to bring to the beach and we went our way Cubi – Cubi Beach. This beach has always been our family’s hang out place. Birthdays, and post event or holiday celebrations are held here. Cubi – Cubi beach is very memorable place to me since it is in this place where I started to know the person I gave my heart to, the person I share my life with now; my husband.

Below are our pictures during the celebration with our children having fun in the shore.

Cubi-Cubi Beach Fun.

Feeding my son Zach; he ate a lot coz he sought to go back to the sea to play.

Papa playing with Mama and their grand children.

Sis and Mom

Sissy Jury and mama preparing our food for lunch.

The little ones has the bottles of wine.

Time to fill the bread basket. (Lunch Time)