Watch your nonverbals. Research suggests that at the very most only 30 percent of what we communicate takes place verbally, with 70 percent or more occurring nonverbally. A simple look, gesture, or touch can speak volumes, communicating affirmation, acceptance, and approval, or their opposites. Never underestimate the power of your nonverbals to cultivate relationships.

Deal with conflicts directly. When a friend offends you, follow this ancient wisdom of Scripture: “Argue your case with your neighbor directly, and do not disclose another’s secret”. When you break a confidence and tell others behind a friend’s back about the trouble between the two of you, you lose credibility with your friend and with those you’ve told about it. Dealing directly with an offender isn’t easy at the time, but has the best chance of preserving friendships in the long run.

Forgive wrongs done against you. Nothing can paralyze a friendship like a hurt that’s not forgetten. 

Observe the golden rule. Every other relationship-building principle can be wrapped up in this one. When you can do to others what you would want them to do to you if you were in their place, you will be doing the best you can to assure yourself of relationships that have the power to keep you well.

Treasure close friends. In this book WHY AM I AFRAID TO TELL YOU WHO I AM? John Powell identofoed five levels of communication: stranger (communicating nonverbally and with cliches), acquaintance (reporting the facts), casual (sharing self-disclosure of feelings and emotions), and intimate (complete openness, in which you can share anything and feel your confidence will never be betrayed). Time availability and emotional capacities limit most people to 12-15 close friends and 3-5 intimate friends. If you have friends at the close or intimate levels, treasure them as among your greatest assets. Everyone can have at least one intimate, safe, friend in God.

Be an active listener. In the modern environment in which radios and TVs are often used to provide background noise, people are taught to tune out the human voice while they work on the other things. Unwittingly they thus train themsleves to tune out family members or friends who talk to them.

Dr. Ronald Nathan nad Marian Stuart point out in their book Coping Wth the Stressed-out People in your Life that we can think three to four times faster than most people talk. That makes it tempting to be preparing a response or even thinking of other things while someone is talking to you. It takes effort to concentrate on what someone is saying, trying to feel what they are feeling, asking questions for clarification, feeding backwhat you are hearing. But that’s the discipline of cultivating healthy relationships.

These precious lessons may be so simply taught as to be understood even by little children. The heart of the child is tender and easily impressed. When we learn the simplicity and gentleness and love of the Savior, we shall not find it difficult to touch the hearts of the little ones and teach them love’s ministry of healing.

From a worldly point of view, money is power. But from the Christian’s point of view, love is power. Genuine love has extraordinary worth to do well, and can do nothing but good. It thwarts disagreement and despair and conveys contentment. Affluence is frequently a weight to fraudulent and destroys, but genuineness and integrity are the possessions of untainted love. 

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The first child especially should be trained with great care, for he will educate the rest. Children grow according to the influence of those who surround them. If they are handled by those who are noisy and boisterous, they become noisy and almost unbearable. The gradual development of the plant from the seed is an object lesson in child training.

When children feel they are the strongest members of the family, its scary for them. They know they don’t have all the answers. Insecure children tend to feel that when they are in control, their environment is predictable and less threatening. Therefore, they try to control the people around them with anger, tantrums, threats, and defiance. You can easily see why parents who are not willing or able to stand up to their convictions and take a proactive role in disciplining their children have kids who are miserable to live with.

Sometimes you have to travel a rocky road for a short time to get to where you want to go. It’s the same with discipline. You sometimes have to stand firm in spite of conflict, anger, or resentment in order for your children to realize they can’t have their own way. When the obedience lesson is learned, children cease fighting, and you can more quickly get back to smooth relationshipsbased on mutual respect.

Obedience is the most important lesson a child must learn – so it’s absolutely necessary that you make the lesson easy. Make it enjoyable.

I have a friend that I admire their family so much. I thought she’s as pretentious as being polite to everybody, that she’s only doing so because she wants to gain more friends and more appreciation. But then, I am very big wrong, because one day she invited some of her friend including me for birthday celebration, when we got into their house, I notice her parents were very soft spoken, and also observed that every time they ask for something, there was always “please” at the end of each request. Their parent trained them to be that way since childhood until now that they are mature.

As a mother, I have fears that I couldn’t bring him in the right path that I might not be able to teach and train my little son while he still little. But I have faith in God and trust Him that every training, I made to my little one is training in accord to Him. I know that this little boy is a God trusted to me and with God’s help my husband and I would be able to educate this little one. Bravely and cheerfully we will carry this as a great responsibility to educate and train our son.

The mother should surrender herself and her children to the care of the compassionate Redemeer. Earnestly, patiently, courageously, she should seek to improve her own abilities, that she may use aright the highest powers of the mind in the training of her children. She should make it her highest aim to give her child an education which will receive the approval of God. As she takes up her work understandingly, she will receive power to perform her part.

The mother should feel her need to the Holy Spirit’s guidance, that she may herself have a genuine experience in submission to the way and will of the Lord. Then, through the grace of Christ, she can be a wise, gentle, loving teacher of her children.

However, in order to develop fully, a child must learn to fucos on an activity, to stick to it until it is done. This is where the hyperactive child may find difficulty. He cannot usually finish tasks set before him.

Moreover, he moves too fast to adequately assess the situation. So he goes about unaware that he may be harming others or destroying plants and property. This situation is cause for concern.

The child is said to be hyactive when: he cannot keep still or stay put for any length of time; his attention is easily diverted, he is too restive to finish the task at hand;he has very little patience or persistence; he does not listen or obey. If he obeys at all, he does things his ownway; his movement are rough and uncontrolled. He frequently hurts his playmates and breaks his toys; he seems thoughtless and indefferent to what others feel; he demands immediate gratification and his hyperactivity becomes pronounced when schools starts. 

So, What is a Child?

• Fruit of marriage.  Married couples who love each other welcome the arrival of the fruit of their becoming one flesh.
• Miracle of conception.  Not all wives are capable of conceiving . The Bible calls the sexual union of a couple as intimate knowing. Through this avenue, they can bear a child that will add joy to their relationship.
• Bonding factor in marital affair. A child can either enhance and deepen the marriage relationship or become a headache to his or her parents. He or she is an antidote against a couple’s selfishness and self-centeredness. He or she is the cement that glues marital bonding.
• Mentor in parenting. Couples can never learn the lessons of parenting without a child mentoring them.