Mothers, let your hearts be open to receive the instruction of God, ever bearing in mind the fact that you must act your part in conforming to the will of God. You must place yourself in the light and seek from God wisdom, that you may know how to act, that you may acknowledge God as the chief worker, and realize that you are a laborer together with Him. Let your heart be drawn out in contemplation of heavenly things. Exercise your God-given talents in doing the duties which God has enjoined upon you as a mother, and work in partnership with divine agencies. Labor intelligently, and, “whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.”
The mother should surrender herself and her children to the care of the compassionate Redemeer. Earnestly, patiently, courageously, she should seek to improve her own abilities, that she may use aright the highest powers of the mind in the training of her children. She should make it her highest aim to give her child an education which will receive the approval of God. As she takes up her work understandingly, she will receive power to perform her part.
The mother should feel her need to the Holy Spirit’s guidance, that she may herself have a genuine experience in submission to the way and will of the Lord. Then, through the grace of Christ, she can be a wise, gentle, loving teacher of her children.
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A healthy, growing child is naturally active and inquisitive. He moves a lot and asks many questions. He is into sorts of nooks and crannies and gets into all kinds of trouble. These are perfectly normal and no cause for concern.
However, in order to develop fully, a child must learn to fucos on an activity, to stick to it until it is done. This is where the hyperactive child may find difficulty. He cannot usually finish tasks set before him.
Moreover, he moves too fast to adequately assess the situation. So he goes about unaware that he may be harming others or destroying plants and property. This situation is cause for concern.
The child is said to be hyactive when: he cannot keep still or stay put for any length of time; his attention is easily diverted, he is too restive to finish the task at hand;he has very little patience or persistence; he does not listen or obey. If he obeys at all, he does things his ownway; his movement are rough and uncontrolled. He frequently hurts his playmates and breaks his toys; he seems thoughtless and indefferent to what others feel; he demands immediate gratification and his hyperactivity becomes pronounced when schools starts.
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Children. They can either be legal or biological. Childhood offers a brief opportunity for parents and children to share intimate moments of love and respect. Time well spent with one’s child is an investment for the future.
So, What is a Child?
- Fruit of marriage. Married couples who love each other welcome the arrival of the fruit of their becoming one flesh.
- Miracle of conception. Not all wives are capable of conceiving . The Bible calls the sexual union of a couple as intimate knowing. Through this avenue, they can bear a child that will add joy to their relationship.
- Bonding factor in marital affair. A child can either enhance and deepen the marriage relationship or become a headache to his or her parents. He or she is an antidote against a couple’s selfishness and self-centeredness. He or she is the cement that glues marital bonding.
- Mentor in parenting. Couples can never learn the lessons of parenting without a child mentoring them.
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As mothers, we need to learn the right method and acquire tact for the training of your little one’s that they may keep the way of the Lord. We need to seek constantly the highest culture of mind that we may bring to the education and training of our children a restful spirit, and a loving heart. We need to imbue them with pure aspiration, and cultivate in them a love for things honest, pure, and holy.
Few realize the effect of a mild, firm manner, even in the care of an infant. The fretful, impatient mother or nurse creates peevishness in the child in her arms, whereas a gentle manner tends to quiet the nerves of the little one.
I have a high regard for my sister-in-law, she had eight year old daughter. Even though she is a working mother, she can still attend her daughter in preparing all the need things of her child, without pressure. She can still smile and when you look at her you can be inspired by her strength and determination. She has the spirit of gentleness in every thing that she does.
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Love is the key to a child’s heart, but the love that leads parents to indulge their children in unlawful desires is not a love that will work for their good. The earnest affection which springs from love to Jesus will enable parents to exercise judicious authority and to require prompt obedience.
The reason that children do not become godly is because they allowed too much freedom. Their will and inclination is indulged. Many prodigal sons become such because of indulgence in the home, because their parents have not been doers of the word.
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Parents should not forget their childhood years, how much they yearned for sympathy and love and how unhappy they felt when censured and fretfully chided. They should be young again in their feelings and bring their minds down to understand the wants of their children. Yet with firmness, mixed with love, they should require obedience from their children. The parents’ word should be implicitly obeyed.
An essential factor in teaching children obedience is to establish their respect for your authority by making sure you enforce your requests consistently.
In the early months and years, you must teach your children that “father or mother knows best.” They must learn to trust you to make wise decisions for them when they are too young or immature to know what’s good for themselves. This is the time to establish your credibility as an expert decision-maker, an authority. The longer you wait to teach this lesson, the harder it will be for your child to learn.
An authority is a specialist, a wise person, an expert. This is the kind of authority you must strive to become as a parent. Your children should obey you because they trust your wisdom and expertise, not because they fear your superior power or strength.
The first few years of your child’s life are the time to convey the message of your authority. To do this you must enforce your instructions and requests immediately. However, make sure that your instructions are enforceable. Too many parents go about teaching the obedience lesson in the wrong way, trying to enforce the unenforceable.
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Negativism, Stubbornness and Disobedience.
It is common practise among Filipino parents to call their child “hardheaded” or “stubborn” because he has been disobedient. It has thus become difficult to tell from the parents’ statements whether the child’s behavior is problematic or not.
For example, at around the age of two to three, your child will develop a tendency to say “no,” along with other negative phrases like “I won’t,” “I don’t” and “I can’t.” This is most likely to happen at mealtime, bedtime or bathtime, or whenever you issue a command. Some children say “no” so relentlessly that they say it even when they mean “yes.”
This does not mean that your child has become negative or defiant. He is merely asserting his growing independence. By disagreeing with whatever you propose, he forces you to treat him as a person.
Concerned parents and teachers should instead look out for the following behavior:
- He sulks or makes a fuss when given an order
- He drags his feet or is slow to respond to your call
- He insists on having his way and will not listen to reason
- He quarrels with hid siblings over household chores.
Tantrums. The child cried loudly and incessantly. He shrieks stamps his feet or throws himself to the floor kicking, in a wilful outburst of anger. The child is throwing a tatrum. Tantrums are an expected part of the child’s growing up. It is common between the ages two and three. Among very young children who cannot express themselves well and who, as yet, have not learned self-control, tantrums are emotional outlets. They are often the result of frustration.
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There are many ways parents can show LOVE AND RESPECT towards each other:
- Treating each other as important and equal partners
- Sharing household responsibilities
- Being interested in what each other thinks and feels
- Seeking one another’s opinion on all issues rather than making arbitrary decision
- Always responding to each other with kindness and consideration
- Admiring and acknowledging each other’s accomplishment
- Routinely practicing common courtesies such as “thank you ,“ “please,” and “you’re welcome”
- Paying attention to each other rather than always placing focus on the children
- Showing each other affection through hugs, hand holding, or a kiss to say “hello” or “goodbye.”
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